Birthday Treats

My Girl Mini has a summer birthday. The sad thing about a summer birthday to a five year old girl is not being able to bring a birthday treat to school to share with her teacher and friends. Having a February birthday myself, this is not something I really thought about.

Until...my Girlie wouldn't stop asking when she could bring in her bday treat. I put it off for a long time saying we still had time. Well, we are quickly running out of time. So I made the arrangements with her teacher and a bday snack was prepared.

We did something a little different this year. This treat looked really cute, tasted yummy and was very little work. I bought large marshmallows. Melted down chocolate. Then I dipped one end of the marshmallow in the chocolate. Finally, dipping the chocolate end into a bowl of sprinkles.

My little girl was so excited to take her treats to school and share them with everyone. I was glad that she was so happy. It's nice to be reminded that it is the little things in life that matter.


What Do You Do?

This is a picture of a doo-dad that was found in our driveway. Andy and I have no idea what it goes to. So now what? Is it important? Should we keep it? Throw it away? We find these sorts of connectors and such all the time. And if these pieces never get put back where they came from, did we really need them to begin with?

What do you do? Do you keep the mystery pieces? Do you throw them away? Share your thoughts below.


That's Just Mean!

I don't know what sparked this memory, but it's here so I'm going to share.  When I was in college, there was a professor who was known to be very difficult.  He was hard to win the respect of, he was very condescending, and he really did seem to enjoy making people uncomfortable.  Needless to say, I did what I could to stay away from this particular professor.

But the time came when I had to take one of his classes.  I was intimidated for sure.  In fact, if you knew me at the time, you would have been surprised because I chose to sit in the back of the room.  I learned very quickly when I started my college career that I needed to sit up front if I was going to learn anything; less distractions.  Anyway, I sat in the back of the room for this class.  I listened to everything the "man in charge" said.  I took my notes and did my homework.  I hated just about every second of it.

One day, he asked the class a question.  When no one responded, he decided it was time to pick on me.  So he called my name and asked the question again.  I was pretty nervous but I was prepared so I was trying to quickly gather my thoughts to answer.  Apparently, I wasn't quick enough because he chose the moments where I paused, to call me out in front of my classmates and accuse me of not being prepared.  He assumed I had not done the reading.  Well, I had done the reading.  I did have an answer.  And I did not like being ridiculed in front of my peers.  Especially for something that was not true.  So, when he was finished, I spoke up.  I explained that I had done the required reading and that I had just taken a moment to collect my thoughts before I began to speak.  Then I took another moment to gauge his reaction before I went on to answer the question.  And I answered the question with great detail and insight I might add.

What bothered me then, and still bothers me today (almost 13 yrs. later) is the look he gave me once I defended myself.  I had looked him straight in the eyes as I explained my momentary pause.  And I could actually see his level of respect rising for me.  By the time the question was answered, he was smiling.

I don't understand why some people feel they need to belittle or intimidate other people.  I also don't understand why those same people respect the people who stand up for themselves.  A good friend of mine was also in this class.  She ended up in tears the few times she went to see him.  I had passed some kind of test with this man.  And for the rest of the semester, he was different with me.  He would joke with me.  When he called on me, he acted like he expected me to have a good answer (which of course I did, haha!).  I didn't like it. I didn't like watching the other students squirm in their seats.  I do not like being pushed into a corner and that is how he was making me feel.  I just reacted to this feeling.  And for this instinctive reaction, I was rewarded.  This man was just being a bully in his own classroom.  I think it is sad there are people like this.  But the truth is that they are out there.  I haven't always been able to stand up for myself.  But I did on this day.  After all this time, this experience has not been forgotten.  Some people are just mean.


Finding Contentment

Deep thought for the day...focus on the moment you are in. This is a reminder for myself. I am the kind of person who is doing one thing but thinking ahead about two or three other things that I will be doing. Sometimes I am focus on the unpleasant thoughts, you know, things that I don't want to do. Sometimes my thoughts are on good things that are coming up. But either way, I am robbing myself as well as the people around me of my full attention in the present moment. Because my mind is always thinking about what needs to be done, or what I want to do, I often find myself discontent with where I am right now.

I'm not exactly sure how to accomplish this feat of being in the preset moment but I definitely think that being aware of this is a step in the right direction. The "other" things, good and bad will still happen. And in theory I can handle them when they are in my present moment.

Honestly, I know this is going to take a lot of practice. And knowing the type of person I am, it isn't going to be easy. But I don't want to look back when older and see how I missed out on so much because I couldn't keep my head in the moment.

What about you? Do you struggle with always thinking ahead? Being prepared is one thing but I need to be careful not to plan for a future moment at the expense of a present moment.


Letters From Mom

I was "exploring" on Pintrest and I found a great idea. At least, I think it's a great idea. So I went out and bought two notebooks...one for each kiddo.

Yesterday, I explained how these notebooks work. In these special books, we are going to write letters to each other. My child writes to me. The next day, I respond. And so on. I am curious to see what the Mini's want to share with me.

I told them they can write about their day, happy things, things that upset them. I am hoping this will be fun and will help me see into their minds and emotions. I also hope this is something we can keep up with.

Right now they are both very excited about the whole process. And that makes this very fun for me.



We all  know I exercise.  I workout a lot.  I workout hard.  And I sweat "like a man".  No glistening here. I AM NOT kidding.  It is disgusting.  Forget wet armpits...I'm talking I look like I just got out of the shower and didn't dry off.  My clothes are drenched.  My hair is dripping.  The sweat is running down my arms and off my elbows.  I tease my trainer that my eyelashes are sweating. I know, not a very attractive picture.  But the facts are facts.

I actually do not mind sweating hard while I workout.  I am not a huge fan of sweating a lot at any other time of the day but when I'm exercising, sweating is just part of the deal.  Although, it would be nice to not sweat quite so much.

So what does all this sweat mean?  Is it a good thing?  Is it a sign that something is wrong?  I decided to google "excessive sweating while exercising" and I got some answers.  First question, is do I sweat excessively throughout the day, while doing every day tasks?  The answer is no.  And that is a good thing. According to no-iron-fitness.com, sweating is the way our body cools itself down.  (I actually knew that)  The site states the following...

                "The harder you train, the more chances you'll have excessive sweating during exercise    which means, in most average healthy adults that your body is becoming more efficient at cooling itself down."

I am okay with that.  I am in good shape.  I may smell like a goat and look like a drowned rat for that hour or so but it washes away.  I wont be asked to model for any magazines post workout for sure, but again, I'm okay with that.  I am happy that my body is working properly.  This is a very visible way I can see how my body is working for me.  

I Want To See This One.

I love musicals.  I love random songs and dancing.  I like to watch them on the screen as well as on stage.  I have two favorites.  They are very different plays in terms of content as well as music style.  One favorite is My Fair Lady.  The other is Aida.  I have lost count how many times I have seen Aida on Broadway.

I was surprised to see that there is a new show on Broadway.  Well, that wasn't the surprising part, ha.  The surprise was that it is Newsies!  Growing up in my house, Newsies was often playing.  I saw it in the theater when it came out...1992.  I had the soundtrack that I listened and sang along with.  And then when the video was released, Newsies was a common flick showing at our house.

And now its on Broadway!  I am hoping that my Mom, Sister and I can find a way to get out to see this one together.  What a fun day that would be.

Do you like musicals?  What is your favorite musical?  Have you seen Newsies?  Maybe we can get a bus tour together and take a Java Talk trip to see the show!


Double Standards

As I am "putting on my face" this morning, I have a thought that I can't seem to let go of.

Why is it that as a man ages, the lines on his face are attractive? Sexy even. But on a woman, they make her look old.

Laugh lines on a man, tell me he has fun and enjoys life. I don't think the same is said of the average woman. In fact there is a bazillion dollar industry that targets women and fighting those very lines.

Definitely a double standard here. And one that I continue to play into. Although I see this double standard, I'm not sure I'm ready to give up the fight and embrace these lines.


Girl Fun

I was in the mood to do something different with my Girl Mini today. But what to do?

We planned a girl day with a friend and her mommy. We went to the mall and let the girls have a fashion show. We let the girls pick a handful of fancy dresses and took off for the dressing room.

They had so much fun! And of course they looked so adorable. They were so excited to be so dressed up. And they were thrilled to be dressed the same.

This was a great way to spend the morning. Being silly and dressing up.



Yes, I'm disappointed that I won't be certified to teach boxing this weekend. So, I need a new plan. I am happy to share that I have registered for a new class that I will take at the end of June. Taking one more step forward on this journey...


I have been working very hard to prepare for my boxing certification. I have studied. I have practiced. I have even had the opportunities to co-teach a few classes. I have gotten mentally prepared to succeed. The big day is this Sunday.

Yesterday, I received an email saying that my certification class has been cancelled. What?! I was so upset. I see this certification as a door that is opening for me. As scary as it has been as times, I really want this. And they cancelled it. I was pretty down about this yesterday. But there isn't much I can do about this. I have already paid so they will have to reschedule. I just need to be patient (I hate being patient) and keep my focus. I will do this. Definatly a setback but not the end of the road. I'm disappointed but I am still focused.


New Pony in Town

Meet Elliott, a pony who was born 6 days ago at the stable where my Girl Mini takes lessons, Encore Farms.

I grew up with cats. I had the occasional fish. Some girls are horse crazy. I was cat crazy. My little girl, is one of the horse crazy kind of girls.  She always has been.  At three she was claiming that she is going to be a "horsey worker" when she grows up.  I'm starting to think she just may.

So now my girl is taking riding lessons. She loves it. I love watching her learn how to handle and care for a horse.  And I love being around the horses.  Often, while she is in the arena I'm going up and down the stable aisle talking to and petting the horses.

I was so excited to meet my first newborn pony today! Last week we knew he was coming any day but he didn't arrive until the day after our lesson.   He is beautiful. It was fun to watch him play. What a great way to spend the morning with my kiddo!

Thanks for reading Java Talk. Please share your thoughts below.


Enter Drama....

Recently, my little girl has started telling her Daddy that he is mean and that they are not best friends anymore.  Of course, this is only when she doesn't get her way.  I know this is normal behavior, at least I think it is, ha. I have to give him credit, he is taking it in stride.  But he is also playing right into this stunt of hers.  In the moment, he is standing his ground.  But later, he asks if they are best friends again.  He thinks she is cute and this is kind of funny.  Can you say, Daddy's Little Girl?  I find it interesting, she hasn't tried to pull this on me.  Hmm...

I keep reminding him not to encourage this attitude.  Our job is to parent first and be friends later.  Probably much later.  As in, when the kiddos are all grown up.  Of course, we want our kiddos to like us.  But it is important that we have a very important job to do while they are growing and learning about their world.  I won't hold this against him, just keep reminding him not to play into our Girl Mini's drama.  Until then, I'll just sit back and watch this play out, knowing that I don't have this parenting thing all figured out and that soon enough it will be me getting pulled into the drama.

Blog Design by Get Polished